Raised in Santa Cruz, CA, far from anything resembling a Bible Belt, Grete nevertheless found herself immersed in conservative Christianity from birth. With adolescence came the appeal of belonging, a benefit Evangelical youth groups of the 1990s offered in abundance--assuming you were willing to play by their rules. Having been trained in said rules her whole life, Grete swallowed their ideology hook, line, and sinker: evangelizing to her closest friends in her public high school, telling co-workers at menial minimum-wage summer jobs they were going to hell, traveling to the other side of the globe to learn how to be a missionary, even enrolling in seminary. Then, a heartrending break-up slashed through the illusion that her decades of obedience had earned her favor with God, and she began to see the countless ways she'd been manipulated--and complicit in the manipulation of others--for so, so many years.